Is he serious? I’m just saying….isn’t Steve Harvey on marriage number three?
I use to be an avid listener of the Steve Harvey Morning Show before the plug was pulled from my area. The show has since moved to New York. I love Nephew Tommy, I think he’s hillarious. I never much agreed with some of the advice Steve gave his female callers because he at times can be very rude. I do however recall Shirley Strawberry mentioning on air that perhaps he should write a book. You see, whenever a woman writes one of those Strawberry Letters about problems she’s having with a man, Steve calls himself the “Code Cracker” as if he’s in a position to offer the only sane advice to women struggling in relationships.
While researching information on this feud with comedian Katt Williams, I ran across an article about his new book, “Act like a Lady – Think like a Man.” What men really think about love, relationships and intimacy. Barnes and Nobles is taking pre-sale orders as the book will be released on January 27th. I won’t lie, I laughed. You’ve got to be kidding!
Is it just me? If I’m in a failing relationship I don’t think I’d want advice from someone who’s on marriage number 3. Isn’t this the same man that cheated on his second wife with his third wife, and screwed his second wife in an ugly divorce settlement? I don’t claim to know Steve Harvey’s personal business. I do know that Mary Harvey (wife number 2) was married to Steve for 10 years and they were together for 17 years. I believe Mary Harvey was the backbone wife who helped him become the success he is today. (Spoken from his own mouth on numerous occasions during his marriage) The Steve Harvey Foundation was after all originally called, The Steve and Mary Harvey Foundation. I noticed after the divorce that her name was dropped.
Come on Steve, a relationship book?
I’m sure the book will do well just on his celebrity, but this is one woman who won’t be rushing to Barnes & Noble to buy it.
I’ve read the complaint/lawsuit filed by Mary Harvey. Steve Harvey can’t tell me squat about relationships. LOL!
Steve Harvey’s appearance on The Ellen Degeneres show February 2009.
Ms. Sharon P. Carson – Author of “Act Like a Lady – Think Like a Man”
122 Comments
January 11, 2009 at 6:38 pm
I cringe whenever I see that book with his face. I bet all his ex wives and g/f’s are laughing hard at the mere existence of it as well.
January 19, 2009 at 12:41 pm
I agree with both of you! I live in New York and listen to the show. While I laugh at his jokes, Steve Harvey has ego issues. What bothers me is the way he interrupts guests who he’s asked to appear on the show. He always has to be the center of attention. Sometimes I want to call in and tell him to shut up so the guests can finish their thoughts. For someone always talking about God he’s such a hypocrite. A relationship book is truly a joke Mr. Harvey Code Cracker. Crack your own code. He should have titled the book “Act Like an Egomanic: Lose Wives, What not to do in relationships. “
January 19, 2009 at 12:59 pm
You know I’ve read that time and time again about SH interrupting his guests and it’s quite irritating to say the very least. I also despise when the host goes on and on trying to get a question answered and makes a paragraph or few statement in order to ask THE question. Never understood that at all but SH is by far the worse I’ve listened to yet and have vowed to not listen to him again if I can help it.
January 19, 2009 at 4:58 pm
Lawd have mercy!!!! Steve Harvey had the audacity to write a relationship book. I bet you two to one it’ll end up at the 99 Cent Only Store in a few years. Negro pleasssseee!!!
January 19, 2009 at 5:39 pm
Dang Asanti that’s just foul!! LOL! The 99 cent store? Seriously, it will probably do well as I said, because of his status and celebrity. I was just caught off guard when I originally ran across it. Just listening to Steve Harvey you get the impression that anyone in a serious relationship with him has to be a strong woman. He, to me, appears to be very demanding. Who knows how much he’s learned from his failed relationships. Let’s see how the book does. I’m still not buying it.
January 19, 2009 at 7:09 pm
Here’s some Amazon.com info regarding said book:
* Amazon.com Sales Rank: #100 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)
Popular in these categories: (What’s this?)
#1 in Books > Health, Mind & Body > Relationships > Interpersonal Relations
#2 in Books > Health, Mind & Body > Relationships > Love & Romance
#6 in Books > Health, Mind & Body > Self-Help > Personal Transformation
January 20, 2009 at 5:39 pm
ok…..1st things 1st…..If you listen to SH talk about his book….you would hear him say ….IT’S NOT A RELATIONSHIP BOOK. It’s a book about how men think coming from a man. Also coming out of his mouth ……I’m not the expert on relationships, but I can tell you what men think. Get your facts in order before you say things….
January 21, 2009 at 7:51 am
Thank you Tanya! If you listen before jumping to conclusions & judging his life you would be able to understand his book better. I take the book as a extension from the calls he receives on the show. Women are not always aware of why men do good or bad things & that’s where a book like this possibly could assist in getting a better understanding. I think SH is merely offering his experience as a man to help lost women who think their in love. I think his past makes him more than qualified to write this book.
And yes, he does talk about God a lot. Probably because he knows where all his blessings come from along with the forgiveness for his short comings. None of us are perfect!
January 21, 2009 at 11:37 am
Steve is great and his perspective reaches his audience. That’s why they listen to him. He’s got something to say and perhaps his perspective is just not for everyone.
I’d personally prefer receiving
counsel/advice/suggestions on such an important part of my life from someone who is credible on another level.
Someone I’d suggest is Dr. Ronn Elmore. He’s a dynamic speaker, psychologist, relationship therapist and author of such dynamic books as the recent, “No-nonsense Dating”, “How to Love a Black Man”, “How to Love a Black Woman”, “Outrageous Commitment” and more…BEST-SELLERS….not because of celebrity, but the info is real and life-changing!! Afterall, isn’t that what we want? I also hear that he’s got a tour launching this year called “The Relationship Revival Tour” as well. AND this brotha has been married to his wife Aladrian for 25 years! http://www.drronn.com
January 22, 2009 at 10:49 pm
I’ve heard of Dr. Ronn. Thanks for the link.
Thanks for all the comments. I realize Steve Harvey has a large fan base and once again, just on that, the book will probably sell. I also realize that people have very strong opinions about Steve Harvey. I wish him the best with it.
January 24, 2009 at 8:44 am
Wow! Thanks ladies for your info. I did’nt know any of this. I live in the harris county area. What I’ve learned in my 45years of living GOD has the last word no matter WHO we are. WE all rip what we sow……….
January 24, 2009 at 10:23 am
Thanks Tezzy! (Props to Harris county – specifically Houston, a former home for me) I hear you loud and clear. Very well said.
January 25, 2009 at 12:02 pm
I personally belive this IS a relationship book. I looked up the editorial review:
Steve Harvey, the host of the nationally syndicated Steve Harvey Morning Show, can’t count the number of impressive women he’s met over the years, whether it’s through the “Strawberry Letters” segment of his program or while on tour for his comedy shows. These are women who can run a small business, keep a household with three kids in tiptop shape, and chair a church group all at the same time. Yet when it comes to relationships, they can’t figure out what makes men tick. Why? According to Steve it’s because they’re asking other women for advice when no one but another man can tell them how to find and keep a man. In Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, Steve lets women inside the mindset of a man and sheds lights on concepts and questions such as:
?The Ninety Day Rule: Ford requires it of its employees. Should you require it of your man?
?How to spot a mama’s boy and what if anything you can do about it.
?When to introduce the kids. And what to read into the first interaction between your date and your kids.
?The five questions every woman should ask a man to determine how serious he is.
? And more…
Sometimes funny, sometimes direct, but always truthful, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man is a book you must read if you want to understand how men think when it comes to relationships.
So it’s obvious as a man he can only give the male perspective. I would however pin this as a relationship book. What you have to consider is that the male perspective of this book is coming from the perspective to a man who is on marriage number 3. Therefore, his understanding of women is according to his experiences. I don’t believe that’s being judgmental.
I like Steve Harvey. I think he’s funny. Yes, he does have an ego. While I won’t rush out to buy the book I think it will do well on its own merit.
January 27, 2009 at 1:41 pm
I love me some Steve Harvey. I heard about the book from my friend and he did say on the radio it ain’t a relationship book. I probably check it out if someone had it but don’t think I’ll be buying it. Steve is funny!
February 2, 2009 at 5:52 am
I live in the NYC area and quite frankly, Steve Harvey just isn’t that funny.
In the begnning of his time here in NYC he always spent at least an hour addressing how many allegedly ‘envied his sucess’ and the ‘haters’. He doesn’t appeal to any of the real New Yorkers that have been here all their lives but rather the majority of the show is geared toward the Southern and syndicated listeners.
As for his book, I think there should be a law against people who have more than two failed marriages writing a relationship/ advice- esque book. Didn’t he and Jackie Reid have issues with him sexually harassing her. Quite typical when you work in a black-owned business. There was another sexual harrassment and inappropriate conduct suit against the husband of Wendy Williams- also on the same station.
I may wait for this book to hit the 99cent store as an earlier blogger suggested
February 2, 2009 at 5:56 am
oh by the way- ONE MAN CANNOT GIVE A MALE PERSPECTIVE!!!!
My father (who was male and an honarable Marine) would never speak to a woman the way Steve Harvey does, never treat a woman how Steve Harvey has, or even disrespect another human being the way Steve Harvey does!!!!
A real man will always admit that he doesn’t know everything, and would never market a book claiming to have the ultimate ‘male perspective’- Shame on the publishers, shame on WBLS for wasting the airtime and SHAME on Steve Harvey!!
February 4, 2009 at 9:28 am
Thanks for your honest comments Trinigyal! As I’ve stated earlier in this string, many people have “issues” with Steve Harvey. When I stumbled on the book it really threw me. I didn’t know about the sexual harassment issues, but I’m not surprised. He makes some pretty colored remarks on the air at times and I absolute hate it when he calls a woman a “heffa.” Thanks again for posting.
February 4, 2009 at 11:04 am
Marshmello, pvdugas, trinigyal, lady di……….you guys are all HATERS!!!!!!!!!
February 4, 2009 at 11:10 am
Thank you LTD!!
February 4, 2009 at 7:31 pm
You know, just reading all the mess some of the women left about Steve Harvey is ridiculious, it’s a shame. What man u know are willing to go this far to help women. That’s why some women are in the shape they are in now because they didn’t have any guidance, didn’t know men and don’t understand why and how a man operates, here’s a man say he’s tired of seeing women hurt by men even thoguh he has been there more than once he’s stepping out saying I want to help. I’m going to purchase this book better yet I’m going to purchase two, why because if we as women can get to look at it from a man point a view we wouldn’t go thrugh some of the things we do with men today. We allow these men to use and abuse us, then we have a man that’s saying I want to help the women out. What perfect man have you seen? There are plenty men out here that have done some things in there life, but this man inspite of his short coming was willing to sacrafice some information that can bring women out of bondnage. For all of you all that are hating, where are you relationship wise? You sound bitter, you sound like you have been hurt, just listening to your comments. Women put your pride aside and think about it for a minute: This is a man true enough that is on his third marrige, but yet and still he’s successful. I’m happy to have a man stand up for women for a change and not try and get over on them. Sound to me as if you all are hurting so you are using his past to pull his faults. We’re not living in what happened then but what’s going on now. Also just so you know, you don’t have to be a relationship expert to write a book. I commend Steve Harvey for what he is doing, he is exposing men and helping women at the same time. That’s why men have a problem wit what he wrote because they are scared once a women figured them out they can no longer get over like they have been doing, being playas for decades. KEEP DOING YOUR THANG STEVE! INSPITE OF YOUR SHORT COMING, WE ALL HAVE SINNED AND FELL SHORT OF THE GLORY OF GOD!
February 5, 2009 at 10:28 am
Stacy, I’m not hatin on Steve Harvey, I simply voiced an opinion, as have and as did others across the web. Furthermore, a subjective opinion is not an expression of hate.
In answer to your question of “how are we relationship wise?” I personally have a wonderful relationship with a God fearing – true blue black man. Have I had difficult past relationships? Of course I have. It’s how we learn and grow in love. Without failed relationships it’s difficult to know what NOT to do in the next. But let’s get back to the book.
First of all, perhaps it’s important to note here that Steve has a co-writer: a relationship expert: Denene Millner.
The Access Atlanta Blog on 2/2/09 revealed a few excerpts from the book. You can click the link to read them all but this one got my attention:
Three things that define a man: who they are (a title such as CEO or artist), what they do and how much they make: “I’m a standup comic. That’s what I do. Who I am is how far up the ladder I am in the standup world. Do I sell out concerts or am I just a club act? How big I am also helps define how much I make. This is what defines me, drives me.”
Now correct me if I’m wrong (I’m sure you will) but doesn’t this tend to be the number one complaint men have? Women hanging on status and money, etc. etc. Don’t get it twisted – romance without finance never gets off the ground but come on. What about the UPS worker who works hard and may not earn a six figure salary; or the guy who delivers Pepsi Cola to the grocery store?
Anyway……….
What are others saying about this book? Find out for yourself.
Black and Married with Kids website
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February 5, 2009 at 10:55 am
WoW! So much negativity. STEVE is great! Maybe U can’t handle the truth, HATERS!!!!
February 5, 2009 at 10:59 am
This blog (page) is stupid! I’m sorry I found it. What a waste of time. Moving on to more pos. things. Get a life
February 5, 2009 at 11:07 am
oh by the way- ONE MAN CANNOT GIVE A MALE PERSPECTIVE!!!!
pvdugas, coming from a black man who has not always had successful relationships ur correct in your comments. Many black women, no, most black women don’t wanna give a man the time of day of he earns what they consider a mediocre living. Titles, what a man earns and how far up on the corporate ladder are turn offs for most men.
Who I am is a man of God. By trade I’m a laborer and have suffered several ups and downs in employment because of that trade. I’ve fortunate to have a woman by my side who loves and understands me enough to ride out the storms with me.
The poster was correct, this is one man’s perspective and the definition is not indicative of all men. Mr. Harvey’s comment “How big I am helps define how much I make” may bode well for him in the entertainment profession but his book is being marketed to a different population.
Nice blog. Great comments.
February 5, 2009 at 11:02 pm
Bravo Robert – Bravo! Thank you for your comments. You get it! I’d love to hear from more men on this topic. I’m sure your woman is very happy and I’m happy you stopped by to add your refreshing take on this subject that appears to be getting a lot of attention.
February 5, 2009 at 11:06 pm
I was just about to do a quick post on this book and decided to do a google search for more info. I’m mad you dished the dirt about him being on marriage number 3! But then again, those women who wrote The Rules books are divorced too. Maybe that’s the key to writing a successful relationship book–having had unsuccessful relationships. What better source for material? lol
February 5, 2009 at 11:10 pm
I would also like to point out the books on Steve Harvey’s book club list. *raising an eyebrow at you*
http://www.steveharvey.com/bookclub/
February 5, 2009 at 11:34 pm
Naysue, in many ways unsuccessful relationships may be a recipe for a book on relationships; as in what not to do. I’m sure there’s got to be one out there LOL! My friend read that Rules book. I thought it was bullshit from chapter one. I’m curious, you said you were posting on the book. I’d love to read it.
February 5, 2009 at 11:42 pm
Three things that define a man: who they are (a title such as CEO or artist), what they do and how much they make: “I’m a standup comic. That’s what I do. Who I am is how far up the ladder I am in the standup world. Do I sell out concerts or am I just a club act? How big I am also helps define how much I make. This is what defines me, drives me.”
This confirms why people diss Steve Harvey. Why a man gotta have a title to be worthy of a woman’s love and affection? My man is one of them club acts he talk about and it don’t make him less of a man.
RobertV I like your comments. They more what women look for. Not all black women are hung up on these things. That’s Steve Harvey’s mess.
February 6, 2009 at 12:00 am
This is getting interesting pvdugas. I’ve read the comments and I believe I understand but RobertV made a good point by saying (and in fairness to Steve Harvey) this is what defines Steve Harvey and drives him. I can see where Steve’s words can be taken out of context because it affirms the taboo/sterotype that all women want the CEO with the briefcase, the money la la la when in actuality women want someone who will treat them with respect and loyalty irregardless of his title.
Who they are, what they do and how much money they make matters, but it’s your individual perception. Who they are is the most important because we all know men in both classes from CEO to thug who haven’t been worthy. You can make 600,000 dollars a year but if you’re a dog, the result is the same: heartbreak.
Hot post. I’ll be back.
February 6, 2009 at 12:39 am
Thanks Naysue aka Black Girl Lost in a book. Steve Harvey’s book has debuted at #12. That’s not bad. He also notes there will be a follow-up book. Check out the video of Steve on the Early Show discussing his book. It’s interesting.
February 6, 2009 at 6:10 am
If you support SH,that’s ok. However for those that have a different opinion of the man that’s our right. No we are not “haters”. I for one would like to read a book written by his exwife for a real insight into the man behind the nonlaugher. Steve does not tickle everyones funny bone,nor is he a very pleasant person to meet in person. I am a flight Attendent for American Airlines, and have had this man on at least three flights. If you just say hello, Steve goes into this entire meltdown of ugly facial experssion to let you know you made a mistake in speaking… For some of you,if there is a book signing at your local bookstore I encourage you to be there,buy a book and see if he is gracious enough to say the simple words of thank you. He did not like Bernie Mac, after the Kings of Comedy tour. Tried to Kill the deal between the studio and Bernie for the show The Bernie Mac Show. And had the nerve to show up for the funeral. Say what you like cause it is your opinion! However just know if you clear a smoke glass mirror, you might not like how clear it becomes!
February 7, 2009 at 10:07 am
Yea I said It: Thank you. Most of the comments I’ve read (at your blog) as well as others, have some very negative comments about Steve Harvey. Hell, everybody can’t be hating!
I like the idea of a book by his ex’s. I’d love to read Mary Lee’s account of her famous husband, but I think she’s too gracious a woman to even go there. After the way she was treated I’m sure that book would make the number 1 bestsellers list.
February 9, 2009 at 2:37 pm
OK guys,
Yeah, Steve did Mary ugly in the divorce, Yeah, he’s rude at times and yeah we have the choice to listen to the Morning Show or not. Yeah, he’s a hater on comedians that are funnier than him or more successful than him (Bernie). He said he loves Cederick the Entertainer, but his hatered, rudeness never stop anyones blessings. One because GOD is in controll of it all.
Overall, I still like him and will contiue to listen to him daily. Use what I want and what I don’t approve of I tune it out. It’s called choices.
I have a copy of his book and I thank him for his advise. as well as the rest that has now made it # 1 on the best sellers list. We’ve got to turn things around with the men. Men have lost all respect for women and it’s because we let them get away with more and more until we are now just plain on jokes and all respect is gone. Yeah we’re lonesome , but if we seattle for less, God can’t bless us with the best. Steve gives great advise and as he’s said GOD ain’t through with him yet. I know a lot of people that’s been married more than one time and they keep trying, hoping to get better. And I believe Steve is trying to get better. We are so judgemental about someone elses business. If we all dig deep, we all have a little Steve Harvey in us.
Take the book for what it’s worth and move on with Peace and Love for ourselves and Peace and Love will come our way. Less judgement and look for the best in us all and that includes Steve Harvey.
February 12, 2009 at 10:16 am
Look at the name of the book PLEASE!! Some of you women just don’t get it and never will Steve is giving you the GAME from a male point of view. This is how we think this book is on point. The sad part is that the women who need to read the book won’t!! Read the book before you hate on it!
February 14, 2009 at 1:52 pm
“Are Failed Marriages A Good Recipe for a Book?”
1. If failed marriages are good reasons for writing a relationship book, then failed surgeries could be good reasons for a surgeon to write a book about surgical procedures: Would you want this surgeon to operate on you?
2. If failed marriages are good reasons for writing a relationship book, then losing cases could be good reasons for an attorney book about practicing law. Would you want this attorney representing you?
3. If failed marriages are good reasons for writing a relationship book, then losing investment money could be good reasons for a stock broker to write a book on how to invest you money. Would you give your money to this stock broker?
4. If money, status and prestige define who a man is, and are viewed as keys to success in a relationship, then no one who is wealthy or famous should ever be divorced.
5. The question we should ponder is …”Should a husband who physically abused his wife, committed adultery and abandoned his wife be viewed as a consulting source on this topic and “profit” from his actions in a book?”
I’ll give you some more later….
February 16, 2009 at 11:10 am
You women sound angry. I am sure some of you are on marriage number three also and could probly use reading the book. Phyllis it sounds like you have a personal problem with Steve. I am sure you have some dirt you carry around in your life from the past yet you are on here judging someone else. If you dont like the man and his show dont read his book. But there is no need to sound bitter as if you asked him out and he turned you down.
February 16, 2009 at 11:29 pm
Well if he’s had trouble with past marriages…why is the book for women on how men think? Wouldnt it better for him to write a book for Men … things not to do?
February 17, 2009 at 5:28 am
Every preacher / evangelist is human, and therefore, not perfect. We’re taught to focus on the message and not the man (or woman). First & foremost, I am not comparing SH to a minister. Nevertheless, the message(s) from his book can be monumental, if you let it. Reading his book required that I be reflective and think about my choices and my actions. I didn’t focus on him, his past, his ex-women. I didn’t & don’t care about any of that. I do care about being the best me and potential partner I can be. After reading his book, I was forced to deal with some really difficult things from past, and I will forever be grateful to SH for penning words that made me acknowledge my past, plan my future, & accept my present.
February 17, 2009 at 9:03 am
That comment is hilarious to me Dre! The book is #1 on the New York Times bestsellers list. He’s #1 in Barnes & Nobles top 100 Hardcover Advice books. Does this surprise me….no! I knew the book would do well on his celebrity alone. Will I rush out and buy the book…ahhhhhhhhhhhh NO! What I or anyone else thinks about Steve Harvey is not going to stop the sell of this book, if anything, it’s helping to boost sales. 3000+ people have stopped by to read the comments on this post. Do you actually think Steve Harvey cares what we think? He has a #1 selling book. My little $15.00 will not affect his revenue one way or the other. LOL! Thanks for stopping by!
February 17, 2009 at 9:44 am
OMG! How can you judge or analyze a book without reading it?! You can take a lot of things out of context when you don’t read the whole story… I love this motivational speakers’ saying … A setback is a setup for a comeback!! Thank God for all His mercy for those of you who have never been through any downturns in your life…. how can we on our pedestals ‘judge’ another man’s downfalls –i don’t care if the man had 20,000 thousand wives, the idea is that he has something to share in his experiences…so why not listen..this is why we have no growth in our community..people think they know it all….you should never stop reading and growing….and we all better pray for understanding and wisdom in all information that comes our way..through entertainment or even congregational worship. Keep striving !!!! You think having the perfect relationship, now, is the end!!! Please!!! I have the perfect relationship, but it doesn’t end there…we have to constantly strive to please our Lord, and we can’t possibly do that by ‘Hating on others’ or ‘Subjective reasoning’ —We need to build each other Up –Community!! Focus on our Strengths — and figure out how we can help each other in our weaknesses…what? SH don’t count, he’s a bad apple ..throw him by the wayside? …Puhleasse… Support each other !! Remember Obama, those before him and those soon to come… Change is gonna come….and it starts with each one of us as individuals… Peace Family… I’m not even angry with y’all, but I will pray that we as a community can do better for ourselves, our families, and our communities…we as women can find ways to show love and support to our men…so they can be the Kings that they brought here to be, with riches or not.
February 17, 2009 at 10:01 am
Dre –
If you heard Steve’s interview on the Morning Show — He was saying the 3 things Men want — Love, Support, and Sex (Cookie) –whatcha’ think.. I know it’s a lot more to it, but do you think that’s simple enough… When I ask my husband — he talks about one of those stand up comedian acts — where the guy adds that he just wants a good sandwhich in bed….lol
February 17, 2009 at 10:07 am
Steve Harvey and anyone like him will do well, not because of his celebrity status…. but because of his Faith in God… and he acts on faith… this is everlasting success… Any woman/man can do it!!! That’s Steve Harvey’s point!!! When are ‘you’ going to do something productive that you can speak on –when you get to that day of ‘judgement’ — and challenge your families!! Just a domino affect of greatness!!! I love it !!!
February 17, 2009 at 10:14 am
Educate yourselves women!!! We are the backbone of the society!!! Our boys and Men, need us to support them… There are not enough women out there who get it!! Please Assume your Positions of Greatness !!! It don’t matter what you do …. business owner, CEO, Homemaker, or Housekeeper…. we all have strength to be successful and making our Men successful… Let’s be happy for every day..and make each day better than the last.. My challenge to you.
February 17, 2009 at 10:20 am
What a difference one week makes. OMG! This is neverending. There are several comments I could focus on but BLACK PEOPLE listen up, this ones real simple. If you want to buy the book, buy it. If you don’t want to buy the book, then don’t buy it. All of this women are hatin and judging is nonsense. We’ve all fallen short of the grace of God, all of us! God runs my marriage. My relationship advice comes from one book and it’s called “THE BIBLE!” If more people looked to the bible instead of books we’d have happier relationships and lives.
While I chose not to purchase SH book, the reviews have been mixed. Some think it’s the best thing since southern apple pie and others think it was a waste of money. There are hundreds of reviews written by people who went to book signings who felt SH was very rude to them and yet they purchased the book anyway. Everyone has a right to their opinion and the right to express it without ridicule.
February 17, 2009 at 10:53 am
The title of this book should be “Act Like a Lady, Think Like Steve Harvey: What Steve Harvey really thinks about Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment. No two people think alike and as a man I can guarantee you that I think NOTHING like Steve Harvey. If you really need help in your relationships I’d advise seeking advice from an expert on the subject and not a comedian who is using this book along with his suits, DVD’s and radio show to make a buck off of black people who think too highly of our celebrities.
There is one thing you can learn from this book. People are so starved for love that even a compendium of ridiculous “truths” such as this one can fly off the shelves if promoted by a celebrity and given a catchy title.
Steve Harvey does get two things right: that men think differently than women and that the four words men NEVER want to hear are “We need to talk.” But both of these topics have been covered far better in other books. It goes to show how self-involved he is and that flaunting his own insecurities are somehow desirable traits and indicative of his worth as a man.
February 17, 2009 at 10:55 am
Also, I agree with the last poster, the bible would be a far better reference source, namely the book of Ephesians.
February 17, 2009 at 11:33 am
It’s entertainment guys… but I do agree if you’re seriously looking for guidance look for Gods word ….Bible, Torah, Quran…
And your right Ron — Steve is one man — he may not represent you well, but there are evidently some basic traits that can help those women who know men like him–who need more understanding, that may not be able to reach those spiritual heights, whereas the Original Books of Guidance, which are appropriate in all situations.
Just like a child…people have different levels of understanding…so if Steve Harvey is providing information on his level, and the level of his listeners….and they pull something positive from it…who cares if he’s a comedian sharing his view or a homeless man sharing his view…I’m sure it serves some value to some soul.. we focus too much on the messenger, we all miss the message… hopefully all people that share information have intentions that are good, so what if he makes a buck, let him make his money, we all have to find a proper means to make a living… Really good for him… The TV evangelist don’t turn a buck down, so why should he?
I’ll be happy when we can all be happy for each other… not necessarily justifying that it’s cool for the drug man or the bank robber to make his living… but for those who are trying to do the darn thing, the right way..as Sondra said — buy it or don’t buy it. It is certainly your choice. Buy this car or don’t buy this car, go that road or try the other one……..
Opinions are like buttholes…everyone has one… That won’t change..
I want to hear how the book had some good information or not enough…and if so… pick up another book…. there so many books out there — from scholars to non-scholars… Just Read!!!
February 17, 2009 at 11:41 am
Me personally –the most desirable trait that Steve has — which is one that is similar to my husband is his honesty —
As confident as my husband, my father, and my brothers are, doesn’t negate the fact that they all have insecurities… in which I would hope that others will see them as human…
A real woman would love you for all that you are and not… as long as she believes that you are the one for her.
Men and Women are truly competitive — Democrats -to Republicans — We won!! (This time) Everybody has their day!!
February 18, 2009 at 8:50 am
I am not here pass any remarks on Steve Harvey and his personal life. I am merely interested in hearing this point on view. We are not idiots and we are able to form our own opinion about what’s right and what’s wrong, not because he may say something in this book we are all going to agree. I am buying the book because I curious to know what he thinks not because I am going to agree with everything he say.
February 18, 2009 at 6:54 pm
I’m in the process of reading this book, just got to chapter 8. I have to say there is some good advice in this book but also some things that didn’t sit right. For example, he said the only reason a guy approaches a girl is to see how fast he can have sex with her, he doesn’t care about her, her interest, her goals, etc. Now I’m not dumb, I know that’s why a lot of guys approach girls, but that definitely isn’t true of all guys. Also, he has stated that he’s almost 100% sure if a guy didn’t have a good relationship with his mother he can’t have a stable relationship with you. Again, this seems like a board stroke for manhood and there could be a lot of reasons why a man doesn’t get a long with his mother. Oh and men just don’t want to talk, or just want to talk long enough to fix the problem according to SH, that’s what your girl friends are far…but then later on in another chapter he clearly points out that men are not mind readers and they need you to talk to them. I’m a little confused on that one.
A lot of the book has been this way so far with things that have given me insight, thinking about past relationships and some things that I just can’t agree with. Right now, everything in the relationship is pretty much the woman’s fault.
February 20, 2009 at 9:47 am
okay we all have our problems in life that we can not control…things happen and happen over and over people make mistakes…i dont see anyone of yall out here makein something of your life not making a book about something worth reading..let steve do his job…he might know enough to try to help other people…there’s always a hater in the bunch when someone aint tryna do nothing but succeed
February 27, 2009 at 7:40 pm
Ms Phylis: Thank you for opening the comments back up. I wanted to add a comment after seeing SH on Oprah today. I don’t know if anyone else seen it but he was good. He humbled himself more than other talk shows I’ve seen him on. Oprah praised the book and you know what that mean. I’m happy for Steve because I like him as a comedian. I haven’t bought the book and I probably won’t but I thought he was a different Steve on Oprah. Thanks for letting me comment.
February 27, 2009 at 8:57 pm
Hey Shesme: Sorry it took so long. The only reason I wanted to close it was because the SAME points were being made over and over.
I saw the Oprah show and enjoyed it very much. Oprah even invited him back to do a show with an all woman audience. That would be fun to watch! Even without Oprah, Steve made it to number one, but yes, with Oprah he’s guaranteed to sell 100,000 additional books. So yes, comments are reopened. There was never any doubt the book would do well. I still have no interest in buying it.
February 28, 2009 at 8:42 pm
steve is a fake he talks about God and in the same breath talks about sex and berates his fellow man he is a fake and i wish i had a good woman like mary harvey who would love me if i was broke and ugly and she is fine fine fine if i got rich i would never leave her behind
February 28, 2009 at 8:56 pm
oh i forgot the book ,well hear this if you buy the book you are 100% colored not even one% Black and proud. steve is a hustler and just like the man if he can make money off your stupidity he loves it , he loves all you no thinking people who love cooning and think it`s funny cooning is when you buck your eyes out and scream when your afraid like they use to depict Black people shirley temple waving the rebel flag when the yankees come and all the colored people running for fear, birth of a nation by wb griffth with greasy mouthed colored people eating chicken in congress
March 1, 2009 at 7:01 am
I keep reading about all the bad things about the things Steve was saying ,,,,Come on people with all the back lashing and all ,,Me personally I could care the least about his personal life because thats whats wrong with the world today being nosey into other people affairs,,,And to come some of the comments I read ,,,Steve is true on how guys treat their parents and as well as their mom,,,,,Ive dated guys and paid attention to how they treated their parents and guess what they treated them like crap…..So guess what I to was done wrong ,,,In most cases not all but most Steve was making a point and dont knock the man for being honest ,,,If u look women at what Steve is saying about the man hes right,,,,,women know women like men knows men ,,,,Im plannin on buying the book myself ,,,,He might be into making that buck but hello who are you guys out here to past judgement on someone you best be taking a look at your own life instead of judging others!!!!!!11
March 1, 2009 at 11:28 am
I just think it’s sad to read so many unsupportive comments when a person of Blackness has the audacity to write. Audacity is what brings you through to an experience you may have otherwise been told you were not privileged. Why can’t we just be as one as a people? Sad to comment and you haven’t even read the book; if you don’t like him, perhaps don’t even mention him. Change you, your perspective, etc because maybe you wish you were doing more and were published. That may be the truth that isn’t said here.
March 1, 2009 at 3:39 pm
Steve Harvey is a man with an OPINION. He doesn’t speak for all men he speaks for some. He may be right about some things and wrong about others. Is he allowed to share his OPINION to make money? I think so. Do others as people have the free will to ignore what he is saying? I think so. No matter how confident he is in his thinking he could be wrong and no matter how much you hate who he is or what he says he could be right. My OPINION is to keep an open mind about his words and use the free will God gave you or pay him no mind at all. He’s not the boss of you he’s just a man with an OPINION….so relax.
March 2, 2009 at 7:07 pm
ROFL….my sister read me an excerpt from this book and I was hollering. Since I had to drive in to work in this crazy snowstorm, it was the levity that I needed. I loved that part about how a man treats a woman is a direct reflection on how he treats his mother. WELL…if that’s the case, my man’s momma ain’t going to work, unless she shovels her azz out…just like I had to do today! dayum……
March 10, 2009 at 11:24 pm
I don’t really know why people are hating on this book so much!
Having read preview copies of the book, and spoken to male friends about what he says, turns out the guy could be on to something.
Its absolutely hilarious and the reason it is so- is because some of what he says is just too true!
Come on ladies, stop being bitter and open your minds! I certainly learnt a thing or two from some of the chapters- and it may help somewhat.
If you don’t like the man, thats fine but this book really is worth a read for a good laugh, if nothing else..
March 12, 2009 at 6:36 pm
You know, I had the same negative reaction when I heard he had a book – but then I read it, and was utterly impressed! I work as a relationship counselor, and I can honestly say that with my knowledge and experience as a psychologist, Steve Harvey knows what he’s talking about and gives excellent relationship advice. Who knew! Think of it this way – human beings by nature learn more from struggle and adversity than from success. If he has 2 failed marriages, he probably learned more from those 2 failures than anyone ever did in a single peaceful marriage.
March 12, 2009 at 11:51 pm
Leroy I think that what you said makes a lot of sense. I happened to like the book myself, but that’s me. If you dont like the book who cares, good for you too, one way or the other I’m sure Steve Harvey will still benefit from it. I’m sure that for the one’s that dont like it a million other women did. Triniygal , you obviously dont know what you’re talking about when you say that Steve is trying to speak on behalf of all males himself, because if you had read the book, you would have saw that Steve stated several time in the book that he got a lot of his information about the way men think from being around a lot of his men friends, and listening to the way that they talk about women. He also says that he is always around other men celebrities, and he gets that same reaction from them when it comes to women, and he said that he also listens to women, that explain to him the same behaviors from their husbands, and boyfriends. People are so quick knock something, why dont you write a book so people can give you a dose of your own negativity. Thank You!
March 17, 2009 at 4:42 pm
Can someone clear something for me? Is this book mainly based for African-American women, or is it useful for all women? I’ve been trying to get a clue on this for some time and can’t get an answer. What do you think?
Thanks.
March 20, 2009 at 3:53 am
Steve Harvey does not speak for me. As a strong , responsible and loving black male, I can say that Steve is only giving his tainted opinion. He is in his third marriage and he cheated on his 2nd wife, among other things, so what can he truly advise women about? We need to get past the celebrity and look at the man. Would you really listen to a man talk about relationships, with all of that baggage. Yes, he can tell a joke or two…but we need to open our eyes and ears to those people that have been successful in their marriages, not those men that are looking for an easy buck!!!
March 20, 2009 at 3:51 pm
Thanks for that Cliff! I agree with you. I grew up the only girl with a father and two brothers, plus I have 6 uncles!! None of them are anything like the men Steve Harvey portrays in his book. The men in my family who are married have been been with their wives 20+ years and my parents were married 22+ years when my father passed. I borrowed the book from a single friend and don’t agree with a lot of it. I agree that men and women love differently… I’ve been married 13 years and its give-and-take. It seems that SH expects women to change who we are to accommodate men which is not fair. Personally, If I were single I WOULD NOT date a man like Steve Harvey. Every relationship has its ups and downs and you have to be willing to communicate and work it out. Going from person-to-person is not the solution. It’s actually a red flag. If he cheated on his wife, then he’ll cheat on you. Like they say, “how you get ‘em is how you keep ‘em!” Ladies, use the book to your advantage–if you run into a man with Steve Harvey qualities, RUN THE OTHER WAY!!
March 23, 2009 at 2:09 pm
I must say that I would have to agree. Steve Harvey is in NO position to give relationship advice! I’m going to post this review on my blog – http://www.blendedfamilysoapopera.com. I’m sure my ex-wives and stepmoms will get a kick out this.
*Kela*
March 23, 2009 at 3:08 pm
Dr. Phil used to treat his first wife horribly. But now look at his ‘white-picked fence’ life, his beautiful wife, his advice. I take no particular side- so keep this in mind when I tell you my opinion..(fyi-I am a lesbian, and somewhat a femanist~I guess..I just stick to myself…)
As I am watching Steve Harvey on the Oprah show, I have to admit that he has accurate info..,real-life, information available that even I can relate to.
Seriously, just because I believe and take SOME of his advise-it doesnt mean I think that guy’s that cheat on wives are “A” O-K!!!!
Just because I can relate(and actually plan on buying his book) to some things he say’s..that doesn’t mean that I believe everything he believes..
I honestly believe that ANYONE in this world, that has any kind of knowledge-or insight- on anything that gives they’re advice has either lived through it- been exposed to it- or they are $hungry….and guess what, when you read it it’s at your own risk.
Every human is born equal..so every human should , and this is just my angle, and is responsible for they’re takes on life ~point blank.
Take the knowledge that makes sense and run-why bother with the politics of it all???!
Stop freaking out over what everyone else is doing that you can’t stand!!!
Otherwise, try to imagine a world where everything is the same color..then, get over it.
March 24, 2009 at 4:53 am
Ladies, let me say this… the best advice for a single woman to follow is that which comes for the Bible. Yes, that’s right, the Bible.. The Bible says that a man that finds a wife..finds a good thing. Ladies your job is to be a good thing…when you are found. The key to that text is a “man that finds a “wife”…When a man is in search of a wife, he is serious about love..and about life….you are NOT to be found as a booty call, a one night stand or anything like that. If you keep your standards high, you will attract a man with high standards and morals. If Steve were single, a woman should ask him some questions about why he could not stay with his previous TWO wives…she may even want to inquire about how he treat his previous female co-host (Jackie Reid)..you might find out his true character…not the radio persona. Look I am not “hatin” on Steve, I love his sitcom and he is reasonably funny, I am just simply saying…”By their fruit you will know them”…and what sort of relationship fruit has Steve produced? Like I said before, take advice from couples who have had successful marriages….not from someone who appears to be only looking to further their career and load their wallet… Lastly, for those whose marriages are on the rocks. there is a movie called “Fireproof”..that I suggest you take a look at ASAP. Most of all, prayer is the key to the entire thing..
March 24, 2009 at 5:04 am
OMG, i laughed when i saw him on OPRAH
I will say that I have not read the book and i dont even care that he is on marriage #3
The things this guy was saying on Oprah was the best comedic act he has ever done.
“ASK HIM HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT YOU”
… when, on date #1, that dude will be a-running
“IF A MAN CANT LOVE HIS MOMMA, HE WONT BE ABLE TO LOVE YOU:
… wow dude that is so Genius… NOT,
thats old news but also not always true.
im surprised he did not say that a man will treat a woman like he treats a waiter
I would love to see how the book would do WITHOUT Oprah has his cheerleader.
Hey Steve you are the King of Comedy..LMAO
March 24, 2009 at 7:44 am
I was telling my boyfriend on Sunday after I saw the promo for Monday’s Oprah, “OMG – this blog post will never die” 8,077 (and counting) views to this post since January when I originally posted it and the reactions are the same. If you refuse to buy it then you’re HATIN on Steve Harvey. I blog because I have serious opinions about a lot of issues. They are only my opinions. I also believe in giving others the opportunity to voice their opinions. Stop saying those of us who choose not to buy the book are Hatin. Pleazzzze!
Cliff you hit the nail on the head with your comments. Steve Harvey does not speak for you! My man feels the same way! A few others have also felt this way. Whether you, or I, or anyone, writes a book, it will still come from our perspective and our experiences.
Joe, the book was already #1 before he even made it to Oprah’s couch, but like I said before, once he hit Oprah, I’m sure a minimum of 100,000 more books were sold. More power to him!!! Whatever!!!
This book, and the sale of books like it, goes to show you the state of relationships in this country (especially in minority communities) It just amazes me how people will run to books to cure their relationship issues instead of researching and finding out what GOD says about our relationships. Anyone feel me on this?
Barbara, no one commented on your post and I will tell you – I’m sure Steve Harvey’s book was written for every woman, not just black women. Because he is a well known black celebrity it’s easy to assume it was written only for black women. It’s a given that black women handle their relationships a little different than white women (OMG – here goes another string !!!) but I’m sure if you were to ask him your question he would say the book was written for ALL women in a relationship with a man.
Steve Harvey’s list of 5 questions all single women need to ask. He also added that you should be able to ask the first few questions up front, no need to wait.
1. What are your short-term goals?
2. What are your long-term goals?
3. What are your views on relationships?
4. What do you think about me?
5. What do you feel about me?
How do you feel about these 5 questions? I’d really like to know. Blog on ya’ll!!! Your honest opinions are always welcome.
March 25, 2009 at 8:56 pm
Well, yes…. we are all entitled to our opinions and since I do not know him personally -it may be true that Steve Harvey is an ego filled ass. BUT I am almost done reading his book and I can personally confess that I have been educated!! He was willing to distribute valuable information to all of us women that not even my loving brother was willing to divulge. He broke the “bro-code” just for us women and still we criticize him for not being perfect. I am not perfect. Are you? Steve Harvey is not my role model – he is simply a man who has a bit of info that is valuable to women (like myself) and is willing to share it. You dont have to like him and if you dont value his info then SHUT UP and move on. But personally, I thank God for him! Because, unfortunately I grew up without a male figure to provide me guidance as to how to detect a “real man” from a “player” and up until a few days ago (when I began to read his book) I was wasting my time with men that did not deserve my time and all simply because I did not know better. Like I said… I am almost at the end of his book- AND NOW I KNOW BETTER. Thank you Steve Harvey! I know that God will repay the favor (as if he hasnt already)!
Just me,
Miami, Florida
March 26, 2009 at 8:27 am
Fascinating how much Harvey’s book is stirring people up. My concern is how some readers lose their personal perspective of their own relationship and take Harvey’s as gospel. The book is leaving some women with deep concerns about the true feelings or intentions of their boyfriend or husband. Harvey’s advice is simple however relationships are not. I’m curious how women are navigating through his advice and deciding what rings true to their own situation or not?
Carrie
March 26, 2009 at 7:39 pm
Who came up with the term “haters” ? If you write books or say anything to tear down men, it sells. Who has written a book about women? It would not sell. So any brother who want to make it big, throw your brothers under the bus, you will become rich and fast!
March 26, 2009 at 9:20 pm
Ohhhh I beg to differ. How about the most recent book and MOVIE “He is Just Not that Into you”. The basis of the entire book and film is focused on the theory that women JUST DONT GET IT and that if they simply lived by the standards set by men- then all would be fair in love and war. Having said that, the idea (and accusation) that all a man has to do to become wealthy is write a book that throws all other men under the bus is unrealistic and a pathetic attempt to defend the sad and slightly pathetic lifestyle of a “player”. The truth is that Steve Harvey chose to give all of us women the same information he would give (and has given) to his own daughter(s). So! In theory…. the only “hater” on this blog is YOU! ) My advice to you is as follows: Please stop expending your time criticizing those that are making a contribution to humanity and instead please expend your energy on something that really matters. For instance: advancing from your status of clueless moron to possibly – student of evolution with the goal of exiting your moronic state.
Best of luck to you on that!
Just me!
Miami, FL
March 27, 2009 at 3:01 am
I don’t see Steve as a relationship expert. He’s a comedian and a talk show host. He interrupts his guests because that is part of his job, just like asking “do you want fries”. However, regardless of the number of marraiges (experience can be the best course taken that costs nothing), Steve Harvey doesn’t have the educational credentials to touch on an emotional subject like relationships. He can give advice to his children and grand children, but he does not have a clinical or therapy background that gives him a license to give advice. There are well educated trained and studied persons who’ve experienced cause and effects of relationship interactions. Very few of the clinical studies were the result of nice suits with a mic on stage. However, I think he would be a great fit on The View.
March 27, 2009 at 7:25 am
Carrie Southern, Thank you!
Forgive me for snagging from your website but I just had to:
Protecting: He will let nothing happen to you within his means.”
Men might be simple as Harvey depicts but relationships certainly are not. They are complex, convoluted affairs. Remember Harvey isn’t a relationship expert, he is claiming to be an expert on manhood. The most important move a woman can make after reading his book is to circle back to herself, to the place where she is the expert. The question isn’t does my relationship fit the 3 P’s or the documentation of true love Harvey shoots from the hip, but rather am I willing and wanting to stay with “what is” for now?
Harvey claims if your man is not calling you girlfriend he doesn’t love you. This is alarming. Where do we go with this information? Like most other issues, again, I think the only place to go is to come back to ourselves. For example, when we need to be called “girlfriend” we are looking to our man to define the status of our relationship. Coming back to ourselves would be to define the relationship based on what we are feeling and believing in. You love him, you’re committed, you’ve decided to stay and see what happens – that’s definition from the inside. That’s being a self possessed woman – living by your own standards and discernment. Not his. When we make choices based on the cues from the inside we are empowered and free. We aren’t hinging our life or choices on how someone else shows up. If you believe in your relationship and if you love him and want to love him, then show up and love him and let go of what he calls you. If at some point continuing to do so is not self respecting (and you’ll know when it’s not) or you realize that the relationship just isn’t going to manifest what you want, then make a different choice at that time.
Copyright : Carrie Southern
Bravo-Bravo! That’s the problem with many “relationship” books. They often cause more harm than good because we all come from different experiences. Relationships are not a one size fits all. Thanks again Carrie.
March 27, 2009 at 12:48 pm
I like listening to SH, I think he’s wise and with age (should) come wisdom. He’s speaking from the things he knows (my opinion) it’s from his experiences and from being around the people he hang with. He never said he was / is an expert on relationships he also admits “messing over” his first two wives and says he knows GOD will WHIP him good if he messes over one more wife. I personally think people are too hard on SH.. his a matter of opinion people, he ain’t making no one listen or take his advice it’s offered and it’s up to “you” what you do with it. Like all opinions, he also often times speaks from a comedic standpoint so people loosen up Live & Love Out Loud!
Peace!
March 27, 2009 at 7:27 pm
This is specifically for previous blog by pvdugas…
I completely understand the “come back to ourselves” theory of deciding what is in our best interest- for example when we (as SH states) are introduced as girlfriend or not. I think the idea has nothing to do with a woman needing to be labeled or defined in her relationship status. How a man introduces each one of us is simply a “CLUE” into the mindset of that man. Personally if a man introduced me as his girlfriend – it would not make me feel better or worse as a person – it would simply offer me that simple little “clue” that would help me in deciding if this is a man I would like to continue spending time with or not. I think SH advice is genius in it’s simplicity and women should simply stop complicating things by expecting too much from an otherwise simple obervation.
Just me….
Miami, FL
March 28, 2009 at 1:57 pm
Steve Harvey has made a ton of $$$ from his book. On the flip side, he may lose some of his fan base just like Tom Cruise did when he was talking about Scientology & women (Brooke Shields specifically) with post-partum depression. And jumping up & down on Oprah’s couch didn’t make him look any better! People’s opinion of Tom went down it showed when his movie “Mission Impossible 3″ tanked. People were pissed at it showed at the box office.
When SH put his book out, his personal business got published as well. Sorry but when celebrities publicize their views, opinions & dirty laundry, they are going to get judged…it goes with the territory. I hope his publicist warned him of the backlash!
SH’s book is still having it’s 15 minutes of fame and is written for clueless women, sadly. His book will eventually get old but this blog, and others, show that a certain number of people have already lost respect for him. I guarantee he and Oprah are getting tons of mail and all of it not singing his praises! His future performances might not sell out and he may begin slipping in the ratings and if this happens, all his endorsements will go bye-bye! Maybe he should have stuck to comedy!!
March 29, 2009 at 12:16 pm
Kaydee, Do you really believe that? I think his troubles started with the death of Bernie Mac and immediately after that backlash there was the Katt Williams confusion. Someone it appears is always at odds with Steve Harvey and I believe that’s because he’s so outspoken and genuinely speaks his mind. His appearances on Oprah have put him in a bigger platform, but yes I agree, the book accolades will fade. When the smoking gun posted the complaint filed by Mary Harvey people started turning against him.
March 29, 2009 at 4:30 pm
i saw him talk about the book on oprah’s show and he’s entertaining, but i wouldn’t take advice from him either. at one time, i though that maybe he could possibly offer some insight into life in general, but now i don’t think so. he’s not saying anything different than most men on this topic. you know when someone has done some real soul searching when he defends every decision a man makes as “that’s just how men are.” he makes a point to keep god in what he does but then give men an out from personal responsibility. in many ways he’s just perpetuating a real problem. for that he should keep his damn mouth shut.
March 29, 2009 at 10:22 pm
Thanks Salaha! He really does needs to sit down & be quiet because he’s got major skeletons. I saw Mary Harvey’s court documents on smokinggun.com and he did her dirty. If Mary was with him for 10 years, she probably helped him get to where he is today. And if she goes public, she could do major damage! But then again, she might not be too bright if she didn’t get her own lawyer and get half!
SH’s appearance on Oprah did give him a bigger platform, however, Oprah is a savvy business woman. Her TV ratings were probably sky-high when SH appeared on her show, plus there was (or is) a SH link on Oprah.com. Oprah is getting a piece of his success. High TV ratings + increased internet traffic = mo’ money; advertisers pay top $$$ for anything Oprah! And since SH is in the limelight right now, Oprah’s right there with him… getting broke off, too!
March 29, 2009 at 11:58 pm
i am half way through the book and i think steve harvey has some valuable info for women, maybe he isnt qualified for a book but i know i man who wrote most of the new testament and b-4 that used to kill christians. (paul) i think God used SH to really help out women, so that we can understand men better and this book really helps. READ IT B-4 YOU DISS IT
March 30, 2009 at 7:56 pm
SH acknowledges that WOMEN ESTABLISH the RULES and have LOWERED THEIR STANDARDS. SO TRUE, I hear the ladies boast about their dead end boyfriends, many in long term relationships. What kind of woman wants to be a girlfriend ( a mattress) for 20 years? SH is trying to give the women some tips..LISTEN UP PEOPLE, we all need to CHANGE for the better…..enough said!!!
March 30, 2009 at 9:21 pm
This is hilarious!!
Check out this website:
http://www.the-savvy-sista.com/2009/03/sharon-p-carson-statement-on-steve.html
Your boy stole the idea from a woman who had written the SAME TITLED BOOK IN 2003!!
Sharon P.Carson is from Chicago, Illinois (my hometown) and developed this book for women to find the power within themselves to feel powerful and not fall – convienced of the words from those who do not have the best interests for us.
This is so sad!!
I believe someone from Steve’s camp said, “Hey, you’re funny- write something off of these topics. Everyone will love it!” Sorry Steve signed on and here we go with these talk shows showing off as though it was his original thought! HA – that is hot bullshi(r)t and on a better day I may have thought different; but I do not. It was a stolen idea and please do not tell me it is just a coincidence – that is too much of one and he should win the lottery too since his luck is so good!
Not hatin’ on Steve – just stating the facts.
Pray on that!
Shame on you Steve
March 31, 2009 at 5:09 pm
everyone needs to stop hatin on steve you have to choice to listen to his radio show read his book or watch his acts. if you dont like him then fine, by writing all this shit bout him bein rude and hatin on other people your basically doin the same thing so stop bein hypocrites and shut your lil winy ass mouths. luv u steve
April 4, 2009 at 11:47 am
Well my goodness! How interesting this has become……so Sharon Carson wrote the original book “Act Like a Lady – Think Like a Man”
Ms. Carson even has a website of the same name located at:
http://www.actlikealadythinklikeaman.com/
Her book (which by the way I’ve ordered) can be purchased for $7.99 immediate E-Book download or for $15.99 you can order the paper book.
Ms. Sharon P. Carson statement on her book:
I want to say that I am keenly aware that if most people have a choice of two books with the same title, and one is a little self published paper back by an unknown author, with a picture of a woman in a boxing ring on the cover and one has a nice dust jacket with a picture of a popular celebrity like Steve Harvey on it, without knowing what is inside, they are most likely to opt for the latter.
But in spite of this, I will continue to promote my book and the God given messages in it because it lifts women up and in the end it lifts him up.
And let me say again in closing that the over arching message of my book is this:
It is time for women to move from pain to gain. It is time for women to practice self love and tough love in relationships. It is time for women to realize that they are complete with a man and complete without a man.
It is time for women to take their lives off hold and stop waiting for that perfect, man that perfect body that perfect time and that perfect anything they feel they need before they can consider themselves truly happy.
A big HatTip to Savvy Sister for publishing this information, and thanks to Soleil for letting us in on it. Visit the Savvy Sister website because Sunday 4/5/09 they will be holding a round-table discussion to discuss the impact of both Steve’s and Sharon’s book.
April 5, 2009 at 3:35 pm
Here is the book review from: http://www.cherrieskillerblog.blogspot.com
BEE A READER!
Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man by Steve Harvey
When bee-ing a reader you must not waste your time on lousy books. In case you are curious about the hype, and #1 position on the best sellers list, I have read “Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man” for you. While guiding you to the good stuff, I will also warn you of what is not so good. But first let me tell you why. The following letter was sent to the author, and I received no reply from Mr. Harvey. Gee, I hope he’s not busy writing a second book…cause I’m really not that into him.
“Dear Steve Harvey,
The male need to “fix” problems is a demonstration of ego, not a caring act of love.
It rolls like: Watch me get your problems out of the way like a super hero, because I’ve got to hurry back to my needs, my business, and my cookie reward(sex). Men who have to show me they can fix things often make promises they cannot shore up, leaving me to figure it out anyway, adding to the disappointment of not getting what I needed in the first place – compassion. My problem becomes eclipsed by the man’s need to succeed. How about the gift of listening and a reminder, “Baby, it’s gonna work out, don’t worry.” Where’s my big shoulder?
Support, Loyalty, and the Cookie, the three most important things to a man, play out in your book like Sex, Money, and Power – the lowest vibrations of human energy. Women have adjusted to the simple, base drives of men, but when are men going to seek the heart, throat, and higher consciousness toward Love, Communication, and Spirituality?
Put ASIDE the PRIDE, and go INSIDE!
You mention faith and attending church, and suggest women not lower themselves by having affairs with married men, lessening men’s opportunities for weakness. Can’t men pray for strength? Doesn’t the committment of marriage involve mutual support, loyalty and intimacy? Seems a simple lesson to learn that you have to take responsibility for your decisions despite temptations. Religion never taught me that my ego would make me a miserable person. Have you read “A New Earth” by Eckhart Tolle?
Wanting to be “chosen” by a man is another scheme of the ego to secure worthiness. Skip the ring and envious price tag, I want something more valuable, priceless, and everlasting. Choosier women have evolved to provide, support, and bake, our own cookies. I do expect more from men, and I will continue happily on my own until I find one who owns the responsibility of being a good man. Love me for who I am, not how I make you feel.
I sincerely hope you will read “A New Earth” and consider the ideas I shared with you.”
April 7, 2009 at 9:30 pm
Who better to write about morals and self worth than a man that’s been there? He has some serious truths.
April 7, 2009 at 11:42 pm
I’m keeping this post alive (so sorry).
It’s so sad that there is yet another book out there for women telling us how men think. I’m not mad at Steve Harvey, everyone needs to make a buck. I just don’t understand all the press that books like this seem to get. It seems like everyone wants an easy answer on getting into a relationship. Getting into a relationship is the actually the easy part, making the relationship work and staying together for the better or worse is what’s hard.
Yeah, the questions whatever. Are these rhetorical questions or questions you ask the guy? You don’t need to ask a person what their goals are to find out that they don’t have any. Most important to me is what person is doing to show that they have some sort of aspirations or drive in life and that we have the same values. We can have all the goals we want but sometimes life throws you a curve-ball. How does a person react when things don’t go as planned? Will they direct their anger and blame at me? Nobody would answer that honestly. It’s information you pick up as you go along. How do you feel about me? Really, what is a guy that wants to sleep with you going to say? If a woman really expects a man to say, well I’m only taking you out so you will have sex with me, they don’t need to date! Seriously. How the hell is anyone supposed to know how they feel about you “upfront?” If a man told me loved me after knowing me a short time, while it’s lovely to hear, I would run. Most of the information women truly need to know about their perspective lover/husband/partner, you don’t get by asking you get by observing.
April 9, 2009 at 7:58 am
Can I get an AMEN on that one?
For years I’ve told my circle of girls – “It’s not what he says, it’s what he does!” Talk is easy. A woman/man can tell you anything. The truth lies in the actions. LOVE IS A VERB! Hello somebody!!!
April 9, 2009 at 8:38 am
I’ve been sitting here reading all about SH stealing his book idea. I’ve always tried to be fair with the release of this book but if SH stole the idea that’s pitiful. The thought that the idea may have been stolen from a black woman makes it even more painful to digest.
I agree also with the comments left by Deni. In a new relationship no-one reveals much upfront and even if they do, that doesn’t mean the reveal is truthful. This is why it’s important to listen, especially when forming new connections and that advice goes both ways, for male and females.
I’m stunned about the stolen idea. Did SH not think this information would come out? Is Ms. Carson suing? Has Oprah retracted the book? She appeared to be thrilled by SH’s book. You would think her people would do better research, as this is not the first time something like this has happened; her promoting a book and later being dupped. She’s going to lose her credibility.
April 10, 2009 at 4:26 pm
I had to twitter this blog.
April 11, 2009 at 9:51 am
I’m not sure if anyone has listened to the segment done by Savvy Sista with the original author of this book. I invite you to listen here. I emailed Ms. Carson and she was gracious enough to forward the ebook to me. I plan on reading it this evening (53 pages) and getting back to you.
Of interest in this radio interview is the fact that Sharon P. Carson has been married (to the same man) for 41 years. At the time she wrote the book she had been married for 35 years. In the radio interview she talks about her inspiration for the book. She also talks about Steve Harvey. She doesn’t bash Steve Harvey.
I have my own theory about the book controversy but I’ll save that for another time. Check out the interview.
April 16, 2009 at 1:20 pm
I read the book and I absolutely loved it. The man is on point, esp. the part about the women you keep and the women you “throw back”. Steve isn’t perfect by any stretch, but he’s telling women what the average brotha won’t tell a sista…with the exception of my dad (his version was vague…respect yourself, save yourself for marriage) I have never had a man break this down the way SH did. I’ve made some of the mistakes that he points out in that book, no more!
April 16, 2009 at 3:07 pm
I’ve read all the comments here…all I can say is, I’m going to try it Steve’s way…because apparently I’ve been doing everything wrong, wrong, wrong! With respect to Steve’s comments about what defines a man, well, let’s face it…men DO define themselves by what they do, and by how much they make. A man who is trying to “find” himself, who is trying to make a success of himself, who is not happy or comfortable with his status in life, will not make a good mate…he’ll be too busy focusing on his perceived “shortcomings” to focus on a relationship…and it doesn’t matter what a woman thinks…she may be perfectly happy with a brotha who is a security guard who is trying to better himself…but if he isn’t going to be happy until he’s at least able to see a clear road to bettering himself, the relationship won’t work.
With respect to women who are “keepers” versus the ones you “throwback”, he’s also on point. For those who read the book you remember the workout scenerio…where the brotha compliments the sista on how good she looks…and Steve says that how she responds to his compliment will determine whether or not he takes the time to get to know her better, or tries to determine how quickly he can get her into bed…and how quickly he can change his workout schedule so he doesn’t have to see her again. How she said something to the effect that a sista has to stay looking hot, then proceeds to turn her booty around so he can get a good view, versus how she commented that she likes to work out to stay healthy and in shape…he’s right, sistas…men respond to us and treat us, based on how we put ourselves out there…I know many of you don’t care for SH, but the brotha is right. And thing is, MOST brothas will NOT break it down like this to sistas…because it isn’t in their best interest to do so…can you imagine scores of women stepping up their game, setting standards and requirements? Brothas wouldn’t be getting nearly as much booty…so I thank SH for keeping it real and telling women what they need to know, ’cause the average brotha won’t tell you these things. I can remember being naive enough to think that a man approaching me did so just because he wanted to get to know me as a person…now I know they they all approached…and that they still approach…for sex…they want to know how hard (or not hard) they have to work to get what they want…what it will cost…not necessarily in terms of money, but in a woman’s self respect, her value of herself. And as he pointed out, not all men are the man looking for a “keeper”…some are just naturally men looking for “throwbacks, because that’s all they want. But the men who want more will definitely at least stick around long enough to at least see if you’re a woman of substance…if you present yourself that way.
April 16, 2009 at 7:49 pm
The Bible says a man findeth his wife. So if a man is God-fearing and findeth his wife then ladies, we have our answer to all our relationship problems are found in the Bible.
Steve is a hyprocirte one moment he talks about God fearing and God first, then he says 90 day probationary period for sex, or move in together. He does not have a clue or just wants it both ways. The Bible says we cannot serve both.
I’m sure this marriage will fail also.
April 20, 2009 at 8:12 pm
There is not enough time in the day to keep up ya’ll….but on a serious tip: Whomever the woman was who put out SH’s book on PDF and paraded it through emails is just FOUL! Nomatter what you feel about Steve Harvey personally…professionally and creatively I was pissed to hear that it happened. From what I hear he has found the perpetrator and is prosecuting her to the full extent of the law.
April 26, 2009 at 9:33 am
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April 26, 2009 at 9:54 am
Phyllis, I can’t believe this blog is still active. Thanks for the link. Ms. Monique makes several good points:
I gave up on relationship books when I was about 24 and I realized that essentially, I was going to do what I wanted to do, bump my head and tweak my approach/habits based upon the lessons learned from my own experiences. I’d much rather learn from my own stupid mistakes than to screw up because I allowed an author to temporarily highjack my mind. But my issue with books such as Act Like a Lady is much bigger than the effect they have on our relationships. What concerns me is the way that women clamor for these books to help them understand men rather than learning to accept and understand themselves.
As for the PDf book, I received that email and deleted it. Too many women take advice from everyone except God when it comes to realtionships. I would also add that women need to stop listening to their bitter girlfriends when it comes to relationships. When I was first married I had a girlfriend who, who didn’t have a man, try to tell me about my marriage.
April 28, 2009 at 8:16 pm
I think what’s missing in these books and in these relationships is one simple thing that’s carried people for years. Love. It doesn’t matter how much money a person makes or what the hell Steve Harvey says about relationships. Or what all these self-righteous pastors and preachers have to say. People once upon a time there was this thing called love.
And I’ll go you one better. Love is hard to define, but easy to measure. You measure love in terms of sacrifice.The person that loves you the most, is usually the person who’s willing to do the most. Your parents, the folks that stayed up all night making sure you were feeling better after you had the high temp. That best friend you’ve overlooked all your life that always makes sure they always remember your birthday.
We’re just messed up as people. We gotta get back to basics. Collectively, we’ve got to stop sitting around feeling “entitled” to a good person. You don’t DESERVE better. You’re lucky to have somebody that cares about you. And if they don’t you don’t see any sacrifice.
But love that person as well as they love you. And for heaven’s saake be smart enough to reconize it whe you find it.
April 30, 2009 at 12:41 pm
The book has some good points. If you don’t like Steve Harvey or the book please do not buy it. If you don not like his show don’t listen.
It is that simple. You have to take the book with a grain of salt.
April 30, 2009 at 5:10 pm
Steve Harvey speaks out both sides of his neck and is most likely laughing his way to the bank at the expense of women. If you really take the time to listen instead of laughing with him you’d be laughing at him. Its amazing that for someone whom continually drops Gods name everything on his show somehow turns sexual, women callers answers to the simplest questions are turned sexual by Steve and his constant comments on womens bodies irritates me to no end. I saw him in a promo prior to his appearance on Oprah walking down the street with a couple of his friends and they were turning in circles whistling at women and commenting on their rear ends……….disrespectful behavior for a man, a black man and a married man ….disrespectful period. He spoke on his radio show here in Los Angeles continually about if it weren’t for his wife Mary he wouldn’t be where he is today and that he owed everything to her because of her strenght and love even in the tough times……….yea thats what he said everyday until he found someone else. Suddenly its “my” money and although you were there for 17 yrs with me through thick and thin I’m gonna screw you over so I can floss with your replacement. I’m saddened because I read posts from sistas regarding his ex-wife and they call her stupid and a dumb broad that just wants money, he was famous and she wasn’t and that she needs to be happy with anything he gives her. My last comment is this and you take it for what its worth…Steve treated his wife Mary no less different than the woman Angela Bassett played in “Waiting to exhale” except in this case the other woman was black so I assume thats why its was not a big deal. It must also be the reason its okay to diss Mary and give Steve a pass..but if it were a white woman he had left her for sistas would have supported Mary, blogged about how she needed to take him to the cleaners and everything else and Steve would have caught hell. He’s about making money and being the center of attention which eventually will come to light. Its sad that as long as you doggin sistas with sistas its okay and you can even right a book and pretend to care so long as you don’t run off with a white girl we gonna support you….
May 1, 2009 at 5:25 pm
SH is stealing your money ladies and he don’t give a damn about
give a damn about you. My brother said it all. What
What happened to love? If you find or have found
Someone who makes you happy stay and make
sure you honor the commitment. It aint always
going to be a party. Real love IS about sacrifice.
Also if women would stop having so many prerequisites
and see what’s right under there nose, more of
you would have relationships. Stop hatin on the
decent brothers cause we aint thugs.
May 4, 2009 at 9:30 pm
Kevin & Ray, Beautiful sentiments…thanks for sharing.
May 5, 2009 at 6:21 pm
OMG. I am doing an essay on this book. After reading ALL of the comments I would like to also. Who cares who Steve Harvey is!!!! All women need to do is just look at him as a man trying to give insight on a men. You say that Steve harvey’s attitude stinks. Well I would rather advice on what to look out for in men from a man whos played those type of games. Judging from everyones comments, he is that type of man. Woman you dont have to take everything he is saying but read and learn and just simply keep some of his words in mind. I promise you some it if not all of his advice will come in handy one day.
Peace. Knowledge is the key
May 23, 2009 at 3:56 pm
Who takes a job where they have to wait 90 days for the benefit package? Never heard of such a thing and 90days is too soon to sleep with someone sorry may seem old fashion but 6 months is the absolute minimum for me.
June 1, 2009 at 2:08 pm
It should be obvious to anyone that Steve Harvey is just trying to make lightening strike twice. Another comedian wrote an advice book entitled “He’s Just Not That Into You” and not only does the guy get rich, he gets a movie deal. So maybe Steve thinks, write a similar book, pitch it to the Black community and I’ll get rich, too? Except he doesn’t seem to realize that with his “advice” he is exacerbating the problems between black men and black women. Black women are TIRED of being blamed for virtually everything that is wrong re: relationships. Plus I have a real problem with that attitude of his where he exonerates players. He says “love the player, hate the game.” You can’t separate one from the other. Plus, is it just me or do MOST of these books seem to want to take away a woman’s right to sexuality. He says wait 90 days to give the man the “cookie?” First off, it’s not a “cookie.” It’s SEX and there’s nothing wrong with sex. Next, waiting 90 days is no guarantee, nor is waiting six months, nor is waiting for the wedding night…or ten years after the marriage for that matter. If a man isn’t going to stay, he’s not going to stay no matter what…and if he has a lack of commitment or emotional maturity that is NOT a woman’s fault! Isn’t it time for us women to quit making dating advice writer rich and instead enrich our lives by thinking for ourselves and doing what we want…without of fear of censure or judgment? So what if you don’t wind up “married.” We shouldn’t be identifying ourselves or definine our self-worth by marital or parental status anyway.
June 15, 2009 at 1:56 am
I’m glad I found this. This book is a joke–he’s a comedian, clearly. This dude is really smellin’ himself.
July 16, 2009 at 6:04 am
Well hello my Steve haters and Steve lovers,str8 up,I’m one of them men Steve try to warn ladies about;and so far he have created things easier for me.I’m now able to step up my game by dealing with professional women who was in a fruitful relationship,but due to greed are now by themselves because of that “good book”,thanks Steven keep up the good work dummy.
Most women who read that crap are women who are into themselves,so when they leave their good men,the men themselves get a real woman;so he is fact doing something good for the time being,like the earlier blogger say”99 cent store nominee”…My blessing and love to all good women of all races.Bless up.
August 15, 2009 at 11:06 am
I’ve read the book and have sat on panels, book clubs, and discussion groups about this group. I believe this is a book about males before they become men.
When a man loves and values his Creator, himself, time, mission, and people; he doesn’t lend himself to games and fruitless behavior.
eric john-
August 15, 2009 at 6:19 pm
It really breaks my heart to watch the demise of our people. There was a time when our black authors were writing LITERATURE worth reading. Today, it is just plain, old ridiculous. So ridiculous, it is shameful.
There are so many intellectually stimulating books that are written by experts who have done anecdotal research to arrive at constuctive conclusions followed by sensible advice, and what do we do?
We run out and buy books written by celebrity comedians. When? When do we as a people plan to finally upgrade? Why do we insist on staying basic, superficial and mediocre?
I know that there is a specific audience for this type of no-brainer human behavior, but why aren’t more of us just denouncing the nonsense and in its place, making suggestions about other works that will elevate us as a people? This is just going from bad to worse.
Black people, we have got to stop the nonsense by doing what is EXTRAORDINARY and stop settling for doing what is EXPECTED.
August 18, 2009 at 6:26 am
PUMP THE BRAKES! The Humor Mill is reporting that Steve Harvey’s book will now be made into a movie, and he is also joining Good Morning America on ABC to give family and relationship advice.
Alrighty then!
September 8, 2009 at 9:38 pm
Thank you Anntique! Enough said!!!
September 30, 2009 at 6:39 am
I like Steve Harvey but the book was whack!
November 5, 2009 at 9:14 am
Morning all, I just want to take time and say I really like SH. His show is really good, I don’t think anyone has the right to talk about this man, aint nobody perfect. We all have made mistakes, yeah he cheated on his ex-wife, who knows she could have been doing the same thing. We only know what the “media” says no one knows what dear sweet Mary did. I’m not saying 2 wrongs make a right but I think people should stop talking sh*t about SH. In the famous words 2Pac only God can judge me. So let God judge him and not you.
November 11, 2009 at 10:19 am
I can’t believe people are still talking about this.
November 23, 2009 at 9:28 pm
This book provides a very frail framework of wisdom that lacks a foundation. Women are taught how to control and/or manipulate things to work in their favor to get what they want. This book, though it has plausible insight, is really telling women that if they have had a series of bad relationships it’s because of them. They choose to be the throw back and not the keeper because they must’ve not sent the correct signals, set the price high enough to keep him, give the cookie enough, make a man feel adequate and provisional enough etc… Men are supposed to be leading. We don’t follow well now because most men are not good leaders. They are not taught how to be good leaders so we pick up the slack, thus the many single mothers out here. Where I presently work, when a man speaks the room grows quiet. I witness fathers speaking at meetings and every one listens and agrees, but women who come in alone are often beat down, criticized and undermined when it’s their child we are discussing. I can’t tell you the countless times I have said and thought, “If I had a man standing next to me this would not be going down like this…” The men need to take a stand. The men need to hike up their standards and not depend on the women to be the leaders. We are not meant to lead a man’s heart. Steve Harvey mentioned god, so wouldn’t that be God’s job if he really believes in God?
God was slightly mentioned in the book, but His wisdom was never set forth as being the wisdom to follow. It really irritates me when people call on His name. I don’t go to church, but if I was a believer and say I believe in a God, then why not make Him my God and not my words as if they are so much greater and more insightful than His. If people believe in what they say they do then why don’t they truly profess it? God is mentioned in the book but not as The One True Father or Wisdom and Light. The three loves in Greek agape, phlieo and eros are never mentioned. It amazes me how people speak of God in passing, but truly don’t acknowledge Him. In contrast, the believers in Islam do.
This book has the appearance of being insightful and revealing hidden mysteries of men… NOT! I mean, really? Men are very simple whereas women are more complex? Yikes. Where did he ever mention unconditional love where people choose to lead their hearts and not follow them? When conditions deteriorate there goes that once long standing relationship. The issue boils down to one simple, profound, misunderstood and misused word: Love. We sing about it, pray for it, write about it, hope for it, encourage it, demand it and force it on each other…yet very few people ever know what it truly looks like or means. This book also is very culturally biased. Men in other cultures would certainly be offended by this book, because it again puts a women in full control. It makes women feel less than adequate if the relationship fails here in America and it makes men feel less than leaders. If a relationship works then it’s because a women makes herself a keeper and not a throwback. On a positive note: The book does have a framework that can only stand if there is a solid foundation. That foundation should be built on something pure, true and tested…not egocentrism.
I received a text that read, “ If love isn’t a game then why are there so many players?” I responded with, “Y r there so many playas when luv really isn’t a game?” Steve, tricks are for kids as are games. It’s time our thinking matured and we “manned up” and stopped playing games and get real… That’s the truth. That’s what’s up. Peace.
November 23, 2009 at 9:33 pm
PS I believe in Jesus Christ as the Saviour. I am a Christian… The point about Islam was that a follower of Islam would never write anything less than exhorting Allah and his prophet Mohumed. Allah is their corner stone in which everything else is measured. God in this book is just mentioned in passing as if He is an ornament to be fancied.
November 24, 2009 at 12:04 am
Wow, thanks for your very honest comments. This is the string that refuses to die out. (smile)
November 26, 2009 at 9:26 am
Steve Harvey and his new wife are on the cover of Essence. I haven’t read the article yet but I did buy his book when it came out and after a few chapters I gave it away to my girlfriend who read a little of it and then called me and asked what the hell is he talking about. Enough said about Steve Harvey’s opinion of how women should behave. As a comedian Steve Harvey is funny. As an authority on how women should behave, well that’s another story alltogether.